Brenda Lee Carlesimo

September 18, 1943 - February 1, 2021
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Farley Funeral Homes and Crematory
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Anne Jinks
Patti Frye
Ron & Michele Postiff
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Carl A. DeFelice
Peggy Wolfert
Sid and Brenda Penner
Earl and Karen Midlam
Sheryl Corgan


Brenda Lee Carlesimo, (Nee Roland) 77, of Venice, Florida formerly of Detroit, Michigan passed away Monday, February 1, 2021 at home surrounded by family.  Brenda was born September 18, 1943 in Grosse Pointe, Michigan to the late Russell Francis and Bernadine Marion (Pelkey) Roland.  Brenda served as a barber in both Michigan and Florida which she loved to do.  She was a member of Epiphany Cathedral and served with the Arimathean Ministry, Brenda was a great supporter of the Venice Challenger Baseball organization, she enjoyed spending time with her sisters, and her grandchildren were her passion.  Brenda greeted everyone with her infectious smile.  She leaves behind a loving husband Emilio of 58 years; two loving daughters, Paula Schnoblen (John) and Kelly Link (Raymond); sister Barbara Ann Sarnowski (Chester), brother Russell (Charlene) Roland and sister Claudette Hughes (Robert); four grandchildren Joseph R. Trocino and Deanna Trocino-Engelhart (Augie) and Delaney and Christopher Link.  Brenda was preceded in death by her son-in-law Joseph Trocino.  A visitation will be held on Monday, February 8, 2021 from 4:00 to 7:00pm at the Farley Funeral Home Venice Chapel located at 265 South Nokomis Avenue.  A prayer service will begin at 6:30pm at the funeral home.   A funeral Mass will be held on Tuesday, February 9, 2021, 10:00am at the Epiphany Cathedral, 310 Sarasota Street, Venice, Florida 34285.  Burial will follow the service at Venice Memorial Gardens on Center Road.

Brenda was a big advocate of Venice Challenger Baseball (  Per her wishes, please consider mailing a donation to:  680 Percheron Circle, Nokomis, FL 34275.

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Service Schedule

Visitation Information

Date: Monday, February 8, 2021

Time: 4:00 pm - 7:00 pm

Farley Funeral Home - Venice Chapel


265 Nokomis Avenue South
Venice, FL 34285

Service Information

Date: Tuesday, February 9, 2021

Time: 10:00 am - 11:00 am

Epiphany Cathedral Catholic Church


350 Tampa Ave. W., , Venice, FL, 34285

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Cemetery Information

Date: Tuesday, February 9, 2021

Time: 11:30 am - 12:00 pm

Venice Memorial Gardens


1950 Center Road, , Venice, FL, 34292


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Born: September 18, 1943
October 31, 2015
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November 24, 2019
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November 24, 2019
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November 24, 2019
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November 24, 2019
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Died: February 1, 2021

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Doug and Paige Pierce posted on 2/8/21

Brenda will be remembered for her infectious smile, her loving hugs and her kind ways. Praying comfort for Emilio and her entire family. She is with the Lord, in peace, and has left a hole in this world.


Debbie Carissimi posted on 2/8/21

Paula, John, and family, So very sorry for your loss! May God comfort you with His perfect peace during this time of great sorrow!


Ronald Courtney posted on 2/8/21

"Got no diamond, got no gold Still I think I'm a lucky one I got the sun in the morning and the moon at night Sunshine gives me a lovely day Moonlight gives me the Milky Way Checking up on what I have And what I haven't, What do I find? I'd like to express my thanks to a loving God for a healthy balance on the credit side" Variation from "I got the Sun in the Morning" That which cometh from the heart goes to the heart. Life is fortified with great happiness in loving and being loved. May her immediate, extended family and all those that she called " friend" find happiness and peace in the memory of her smile and warm embrace. God Bless


Linda Martin posted on 2/7/21

Funny,Bright,and So Brave. Brenda brought us such Joy.


Jeffrey and Natalie Worrall posted on 2/7/21

Our deepest sorrow and prayers to Uncle Emelio, Paula, Kelly and to the entire Family. Aunt Brenda will always live in our hearts and in our memories that go back so many years. May Jesus and his Blessed Mother be with you all in this difficult time. Love always, Jeff and Natalie


Emily Sarnecke posted on 2/7/21

So sorry to hear that this beautiful soul has left us for a better place. She will be missed. Hank & Emily Sarnecke


Claude Rogers posted on 2/7/21

Bernadine and I are praying for you and your family.





Linda Martin posted on 2/6/21

Funny, Bright and so Brave- You brought us such Joy.


Pola and Richard Raimonde posted on 2/5/21

Remembering our neighbor, Brenda, as a courageous lady who seemed to accept her illness so graciously. We will miss her friendly ways, her radiant smile and her wonderful sense of humor. Our condolences and prayers to Emilio and the family.


Carol and Bob Sateriale posted on 2/4/21

From the first day we met Brenda it seemed like we knew her for a long time. Always smiling and making jokes and telling Emilio to us a funny story and we would all laugh and laugh. She will always be remembered as a sweet and fun loving friend who was always a joy to be with. She will be missed by her many neighbors and friends. Our love and prayers for comfort to you Emilio and your family.


Anne Jinks posted on 2/4/21

Dear Emilio & family, Our deepest sympathy to you at this sad time. My son Michael & I had the opportunity to meet Brenda and you (thru Phil Pfahlert) at your gulf side home in 2017. Brenda was so hospitable, happy and full of energy - she made us feel so comfortable. Allan had the opportunity to meet you and Brenda with the retired firemen from Detroit bin 2019. We were blessed to have the opportunity to get to know both of you. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Anne, Alland and Michael Jinks


Anne Jinks posted on 2/4/21

Our deepest sympathy to you and the family - I had the pleasure of meeting Brenda and you (through Phil Pfahlert) at your gulf side home with my son when I purchased my condo in Venice in 2017. Brenda was so hospitable, happy and warmed our hearts. You are in our thoughts and prayers during this sad time. Anne, Allan & Michael Jinks


Patti Frye posted on 2/4/21

Paula, John and family—I’m sorry for your loss, and I know your mom will be missed. Sending hugs and prayers.


Ron & Michele Postiff posted on 2/4/21

Dear Paula, John, & your entire family, We're very sorry to hear of your mother's passing, Our thoughts are with you at this time of loss.


Dave Murszewski posted on 2/3/21

Emilio and family, We are so very sorry for your loss. We’re always here for you. Thought and prayers are with you and stay well during these troubled times. Dar and Dave Murszewski


Alice Pfahlert posted on 2/3/21

Carl and family Brenda will be truly missed. Her love of Life was infectious. Sorry I will not be there for her service She and all of you are in my prayers Alice Pfahlert XO


Linda Bauman posted on 2/3/21

Dear Emilio and Carlesimo Family, It is with great sadness that Bill and I send our condolences on the passing of Brenda Lee. I will remember her as a smiling and energetic presence whenever I was around her. Emilio, you and Brenda were a wonderful couple who gave loving support to your friends. At this difficult time, we send our love and support to you. Sincerely, Linda and Bill Bauman


Barbara Vaughn posted on 2/3/21

Beautiful, vibrant, loving, giving, always smiling and positive, that's how I'll remember my friend, Brenda. I never believed we were going to lose her - too soon, too young. I hope she'll save me a place close to her in heaven...


Tony Cavicchia posted on 2/3/21

My sincerest sympathies to the Carlesimo family. Your Friend Tony Cavicchia and family.


Carl A. DeFelice posted on 2/2/21

I have no words for you in your state of grief. I am ignorant of those facts. However, I do offer a listening ear for the future. You know you have someone to share the four phases of grief you will go through shock, Searching, Despair, Reality of the loss. I will be there for you, my friend, when the call is made. Carl A. DeFelice


Mark and Anne Liegghio posted on 2/2/21

Thanksgiving was a very special time for Mark and Annie. We renewed our wedding vows and we were very blessed to have Uncle Meme, Aunt Brenda, Paula and John, Kelly, Ray and Christopher with us to share this special day. Uncle Meme was Mark's best man and definitely needed Emilio and Brenda to keep Mark and Annie in line. We had lots of laughs and fond memories. Still don't know how we fit 42 people in our home, but it was awesome. Love to all of you. Mark and Annie


Patrick and Jill Bills posted on 2/2/21

We remember Brenda as a life well lived. We only knew Brenda and Emilio as our neighbors since 2018 but it seems much longer. Brenda always had a smile and a bit of glimmer and glamour as she asked about our lives. I hope we can have her sweet spirit and faith as we journey through life. When asked about her cancer she told us, “It’s a win-win, live or die- I’m with Jesus!” Amen to that.


Scott and Jean Allen Rogers posted on 2/2/21

Dear Emilio and Daughters, Please accept our most heartfelt sympathy in Brenda’s passing. We have many happy memories of good times spent together at MacArthur Beach. We were laughing last night as we remembered Brenda’s loud whistling when her favorite team made touchdowns or good plays at the Super Bowl party 2 years ago. Such fun!! We are so sorry for your loss and will be thinking of you in the difficult days to come. Your family is in our prayers. May it comfort you to know that Brenda is no longer in pain and is now in peace.


Thomas Kelly posted on 2/2/21

We enjoyed Brenda and your friendship for many years. We will miss her smile and pleasant manner greatly. May God keep you and provide comfort. Blessings! Tom and Barbara Kelly


Ed and Sharon Lavallee posted on 2/2/21

Truly, one of the most beautiful, loving, gentle women we have ever known. We will treasure our memories of Brenda always and are so privileged to have known her. Emilio, we send our love and will continue to pray for you and your family.


Peggy Wolfert posted on 2/2/21

There are no words that can sooth the pain you Emelio and you family are feeling now. Brenda was a wonderful loving person. She will be sorely missed by all who knew her. Emelio you and your entire family have our sincere condolences. Peggy & Skip


Sid and Brenda Penner posted on 2/2/21

Brenda, When I think of you, I see your beautiful smile. Rest now in the arms of Jesus. May God bless you Emilo and your family in your loss of your Brenda.


Sid and Brenda Penner posted on 2/2/21

When I think of you, I see your beautiful smile. may you rest now in the arms of Jesus


Sandra Saunders posted on 2/1/21

There are so many great memories, but the first thing I think of when I think of Aunt Brenda is her great bear hugs and her smile. My deepest condolences to Uncle Emilio, Paula and Kelly. I hope the love you shared helps to ease the pain of your loss. You will be greatly missed Aunt Brenda. say hello to Grandma and Grandpa for me please. I love you, Sandy and Jeff


Earl and Karen Midlam posted on 2/1/21

In memory of Brenda Carlesimo, Earl and Karen Midlam lit a candle


Earl and Karen Midlam posted on 2/1/21

What a sweet, funny woman, and such a wonderful soul. Such a trooper to dress up for Halloween and lead the Venice Lions Club Halloween Parade. May God grant you peace, and hugs to Emilio. Your love for her was always evident. Please know that many people are keeping you in their hearts.


Tony and Lil Pinzone posted on 2/1/21

Emilio, We are very sorry to learn of Brenda's death. We now how much she meant to you. Tony and Lil Pinzone


Bob and Nancy Daniels posted on 2/1/21

Prayers and sympathy to the family. Brenda was always a welcoming person who made everyone feel special. She will be missed in Venice and her smiling face at Epiphany’s 11:00 Mass with her beloved Emilio.


MARK AND ANNE LIEGGHIO posted on 2/1/21

Our beautiful Aunt Brenda who we will remember for a lifetime of love and friendship. Our prayers are with the Carlesimo family. Mark has so many fond memories with the Carlesimo's that he could write a book. Our arms are around all of you. Mark has one thing to ask, Who is going to pinch my "cooley" now. We have lost someone very special and her prayers and faith were remarkable. St. Bridgette and St. Rita were among so many that watched over Aunt Brenda. Rest assured that she is in heaven with so many guiding us. We love you all and Uncle Meme, we are always here for you. All our prayers always. Mark and Annie Liegghio


Sheryl Corgan posted on 2/1/21

You're with God now! No more suffering or pain. You will be missed forever


Sheryl Corgan posted on 2/1/21

Sending comforting hugs and healing prayers. Our memories will keep her forever close. Aunt Brenda lives on in our Hearts, our Family and our Memories. Sharing your sadness as we remember Aunt Brenda (my god-mother); she was a joy to be around. Aunt Brenda always made everyone she was around feel happy. Always putting others first and always making you feel good. She was the most caring person I know. Hoping you find comfort knowing others are thinking of her too. Sorry for your loss.